Unlike what I expected, “Favor in the Labour Market” now sends shivers down my spine. It’s like a constant reminder of the new reality my life is. Everything is going to be different: my routine, the places I am familiar with, and even the people I’ve spent the last few years with. Change is scary, and while graduation seemed fun, it was overshadowed by the thought of NYSC. I thought that by the end of NYSC, I would have everything figured out. But then suddenly, NYSC is over, and the realization hits that life still remains unfigured, responsibilities are piling up, and the course of one’s life is about to change. This can be a frightening experience. Is this what post-school depression is?
I know I’m not alone in this. Most people find it hard to navigate this phase of their lives. There are different categories of people: the trust fund kids who already have their lives planned, the overly ambitious ones who have an idea of how their lives should go, and the ones who “go with the flow and God” because they just don’t know.
Regardless of the category you fall into, life is different. You’re transitioning from going to classes to sourcing for jobs, preparing for interviews, and dealing with rejections. You’re going from seeing your friends every day to being in a new circle of people you may find intolerable. Research shows that a lot of people are often inclined to fall into depression when they experience difficult changes.
Hence, it’s become highly important to share tips for dealing with post-school depression, especially now that there’s a new set of fresh graduates and corps members who just concluded their Passing Out Parade. Congratulations, YOU REALLY DID THAT!
Tips to Handle Post-school Depression
Here are practical tips:
- Acceptance: Acceptance is always the first step to preparing one’s mind. You have to accept the reality that things are now different and it’s time to adjust your focus to accommodate this new phase of your life. Embrace the fact that change is inevitable and part of growth. It helps you prepare to accept these new challenges and routines in good faith. Recognize that feeling uncertain and overwhelmed is natural, but it is also the first step towards adaptation and growth. By accepting your new circumstances, you can start to find ways to thrive in them.
- Get comfortable with “No’s”: Some graduates may apply for a job immediately after NYSC and be instantly employed. Others may apply for months before getting a job. If you fall into the second category, try not to dwell too long on rejection. It’s essential to keep a positive mindset and stay persistent. Each rejection is not a reflection of your worth but an opportunity to learn and improve. Use the feedback from interviews to refine your approach and continue honing your skills. If one job doesn’t work out, try another and another until something pops up. Diversify your job search strategies by networking, attending career fairs, and exploring different industries. Keep telling yourself that somewhere out there is a company that’ll need you and that eventually, you will find them! It’s just a matter of time and perseverance before the right opportunity comes along. Stay resilient, keep your goals in sight, and trust that your efforts will pay off.
- Upskill: It’s not always about what you studied in school, as this could end up restricting your options. In today’s rapidly evolving world, continuous learning and adaptability are key. Be your best self and seek out opportunities for growth. Submit yourself to recommended training, take courses that tick your interest, and leverage discounts whenever possible. Connect with instructors and mentors who bring valuable offers and insights to your table. Make sure you engage in networking events, join professional groups, and stay updated with the latest industry trends. Embrace a mindset of lifelong learning, and don’t be afraid to explore new fields and disciplines. This may end up opening more doors for you than you can imagine, and help you elevate in your field. skill acquisition
- Surround yourself with positivity: It’s easy to get distracted and focus on the successes of others around you. However, to handle post-NYSC depression, you have to focus on areas that will help you grow and maintain a positive mindset. Areas such as
- Build Good Habits: Habits play a significant role in shaping our future. Bad habits can ruin the course of one’s life and put you in a downward spiral. Remember, what you do each day sums up who you become. Start your days with a positive to-do list and stay active day in and day out.
- Stay Active: Keep yourself engaged with productive activities. Exercise, pursue hobbies, or learn new skills. Staying active can help ward off negative thoughts and keep you motivated.
- Avoid Negative Generalizations: One big mistake many young people make after NYSC is jumping to negative conclusions, such as “there are no good jobs in Nigeria” or “the economy is bad.” These generalizations can be self-defeating. Instead, make an effort to pursue your dream job or start that business you’ve been thinking about. Don’t throw in the towel too early; you might regret it later.
- Don’t Write Yourself Off: Belief in your potential and the possibilities that lie ahead. Every small step you take toward your goals is progress. Embrace the journey and keep pushing forward.
- Volunteering & internships: volunteering can keep you busy and give you a sense of responsibility, especially after finishing your service. Some organizations might give you a small reward, but remember that volunteering is meant to be selfless. It’s not the same as having a job or internship. It’s a lot more fun if you’re doing it for a cause you believe in. You can join groups like “Give a girl a pad”, or UNICEF Many of these groups give out certificates that can help you in the future. Interning with organizations where you can hone your skills and learn further is also recommended.
- Be patient, keep going: This is probably the best piece of advice, because if you don’t do it, nobody will do it for you. Patience is the key to navigating the uncertainties and challenges that come after NYSC. Understand that success doesn’t come overnight, and everyone’s journey is different. Trust in your process and give yourself the time and space to grow. Celebrate small victories and progress, no matter how insignificant they might seem. Persistence, coupled with patience, will ultimately lead you to your goals. Remember, it’s not about how fast you get there, but about staying true to your path and continuing to move forward, even when things get tough.
The end of NYSC may not provide all the answers, but it marks the beginning of a new chapter filled with both challenges and opportunities. By Embracing this change, building resilience, and practicing patience it becomes bearable.
Constantly remind yourself that you’re not alone. Many also share this uncertain path, facing similar fears and doubts. The road ahead may be daunting, but with the right mindset and support, you can navigate it successfully and emerge stronger on the other side. I’m rooting for you. Once again, congrats on making it this far.
